Sunflowers in inner city Melbourne http://www.fashionhayley.com/2014/02/sunflowers.html
Who Gon “Check” Me, Boo!
So I have kinda been having a love affair with all things plaid, checked or tartan… such a great print to incorporate into your wardrobe. Most people think preppy school girl or holiday style when it comes to these prints. However, I wanted to showcase this trend in a more chic way. In an Alicia Silverstone-esque Clueless kinda way. This plaid skirt by ASOS is the perfect multi-tasking skirt. It can be worn from day to night all season long, and in sooo many different ways. I paired mine with a structured faux-leather peplum and a simple white shirt. Side note: Layering and/or even pattern mixing make for stylishly interesting looks, when done right.
- White Button Down: Jones New York via TJ Maxx
- Faux - Leather Peplum: Forever 21
- Plaid Pencil Skirt: ASOS Curve
- Ankle Strap Heels: Forever 21
- Winged Bag: Michael Kors: Selma
Plus Model Ijeoma Ibeabuchi @Feminine Funk at 8 Plus Divas 2012 Fashion SHow
well then! work that shit!
perfection. hurts my face,
Do you have any advice on being a better mean fat girl? I tend to be real passive and avoid conflict :/
Since I got this ask I’ve been trying to think about what I actually mean when I tag things #meanfatgirls and I’m still working on it! Be patient with me!
A lot of it was just about what was going on in my personal life. I felt like I too was having trouble asserting myself so my needs could be met, stopping others from using and abusing me and finding myself in friendships where I held so much for the other person without reciprocation. I also started to feel like I spent a lot of time working to get folks more comfortable with me, my body and my ideas and focused on acceptance rather than mutual respect.
I don’t want to be accepted, someone giving up the fight to make me thin, straight and more docile….I wanted to be revered, leave people awestruck and that healthy dose of fear that forces people to think twice about the shit they say to me because of how I fearlessly defend and celebrate myself and others.
How does one become less passive? It’s hard to say exactly! For me anyways! I think I just started to realize standing up for myself and becoming my main advocate (because we are our main advocates always, we need to stay vigilant) was going to make me seem mean to anyone who wasn’t keeping my best interests in their heart. I’m mean in the sense that I had done enough tiptoeing around, quieting down and shrinking into the shadows and I reached my breaking point. No more Misses Nice Polite Well Behaved and Accommodating Fat Girl.
Have you had enough? Once you have exhausted that way of being, you’ll find a new path.
Me, I’m working on checking in with myself more often and being honest when that happens. Do I like the way this person is speaking to me? Do I feel good when I do this thing? Am I remembering to worship myself in public so that others may know how to respect and worship me too? Would I let someone treat my loved ones the way I’m being treated right now?
You and your body and your personhood are in a relationship of a lifetime. Are you doing what you can to make it a good one? How do you need support in getting there? Who in your life needs a timeout until they can show up and build you up?
You and I are reinventing ourselves! We can do it!!
Always on point. This lady is the best.
"A Fat Girl Dancing: Talk Dirty to Me (Jason Derulo)"
You all need to watch this video that’s been making rounds on YouTube and Facebook.
Here you have Whitney— she’s talented, she’s confident, she’s gorgeous, she’s killin these moves, and yes, she’s fat.
I love that she calls her videos “A Fat Girl Dancing” because a lot of times people have a hard time associating fat with anything positive. Instead the word is attached to a myriad of negative adjectives and an endless list of “nots”: “Fat people are lazy,” “Fat girls can’t wear that,” “Fat people shouldn’t go to clubs,” etc. Even when getting compliments, fat and “good” don’t go together: “You can move for a fat girl”, “You’re not fat, you’re cute”, and (flashback to yesterday’s post) “You’re so pretty for a big girl.” But yes, you CAN be fat AND beautiful, fat AND outgoing, fat AND a traveler, and fat AND a dancer!
I’m positive we’ll be seeing a lot more from this great young woman.
Yessss! Love it!